Does living = learning

Ok so here is an odd one and feel free to comment and share !!!

How do you know you are living and NOT just surviving ? What is it that you gauge yourself by ?

On reflection of this topic I realised a link in my own life. Any point in time where I felt I was truly living I happened to be learning. This learning was on occasion a formal exercise but mostly it was the way in which I was interacting with life. I have also found that when people are just existing or lost they have stopped interacting with life as though it was a lesson and instead become stuck without the perception of it being changeable.

So does this mean that to live we need to learn. I really think so. I don't think the learning has to be in one area or has to be hard times or formal education. I think it is more in the way you communicate with life.

What do you think ?

Question: 
I find it so hard to trust any man in my life, I have never felt 100% with any guy, even if it feels really good at the start I don't trust him as soon as I realize I like him... So my question is .. whats wrong with me ? 

Answer: 
Firstly you are not 'wrong' sounds like something has taught you that men aren't trust worthy. 
This could be something you experienced personally and learn

t NOT to trust men, It could be something you picked up from someone else and saw them hurt and decided no way would that be you. Or it could be a self esteem issue.
Any of these three reasons explained that your behavior and fear is a form of self protection. Nothing wrong with self protection until the self protection becomes more harmful than what your trying to avoid.

Its great you have seen the issue, next step work out the why ... as soon as you know why you do this take some steps here are a few ideas,

♥ Do some self love work and remember to stay true to who you are so no matter what happens you still have lots of great things going on even if your love life isn't one of them.

♥ Decide to automatically trust instead of not trusting, trust that you will be ok no matter what trust in you not them ... so to speak ..

♥ do some meditations and relieve the anxiety

♥ attend some talk therapy

Anyone can do that ...

Recently I experienced this sentence and it brought me back to all the other times I have heard it said.

When ever I have heard this sentence it has been to put someone down or to elevate the speaker. Either incidence creates a divide. This divide can be intellectual, emotional, physical even spiritual but the divide was always in the perceived benefit of the person speaking the words.

I strongly and deeply believe that ANYONE can do ANYTHING and so this sentence is 100% true. We can all do it at different speeds, different standards and different methods. But to learn something or do something is defiantly possible.

I know that people have strengths and weakness in different areas and this is dominated by so many factors, our ability for personal growth, environment, opportunities and many more. The strengths and weaknesses aren't dominated by the fact that anyone is better than anyone else rather a combination of factors and if anyone of us had a different combination we would be likely to have a different set of strengths and weaknesses.

Anything I have learned, anyone can learn. So yes anyone can do this or that and in that we are equal not separate.

In my opinion this separation is magnified or displayed in people who need to feel elevated above others. who need to feel separate from people that display parts that they wish to let go of or ignore.

We all want to feel special in some way but do we need to do it by putting someone else down? Do we need to pretend that we are separate because we have done something or can do something that someone else hasn't got around to or hasn't invested time in.

I at my weakest points have tried to separate myself from other with statements similar to this and now with understanding I no longer need to be separate or be perceived as above anyone. I can now embrace that ANYONE and this includes me can do ANYTHING.

No limits except for the limits you try to apply to others or the limits you apply to yourself.

So embrace it, ANYONE can do it .....

How do you define yourself ?

Interesting question ...

When I ask you to pick 5 symbols to represent yourself what do you pick ?

Your kids, your job, your career,good, bad, strong, weak , happy, sad, your bank account, your partner, your hobbies, yours fears, your body, your favorite food......

What do you define yourself as or with ? Its a hard one as we are conditioned to believe we are our actions or beliefs. Beliefs and actions are both learned, did you learn who you were? are your actions who you are or something you do .... your beliefs who you are or what you believe/ been taught?

I wonder is who you are covered up with so many beliefs or actions that you may not actually know whats under neath ?

I have heard a lot of 'rights' and 'wrongs' along the way and often I have been the one casting a Judgement. But If I knew what I was judging was just piles and piles of unneeded beliefs or actions then maybe I wouldn't judge someone else by their piles ... maybe I would learn to see past the piles to the person ... To see 'who' they were and not the definitions they have taken on or I have given.

I use to define myself as a chef, I am no longer a chef ... but I am no different besides what I do to pay the bills.
I use to believe in rights and wrongs ... I now believe in balance ... but I am still who I was before I changed that belief
I use to aim for perfection ... I now aim for the best I can do in any moment ... I am still me though

So as everything changes and grows what remains ........ I know what i believe remains within me ..... Do you know what remains within you ??